Eliminating the Void
A few months back, I have been lamenting about the restless days I have and the mindless ways I came up with to pass the time. I had been splurging excessively (if it were ever possible) whenever I ran out of things to do. Aside from my regular gym, I go have dinner or movies with my friends. But even that seems a little to difficult to do because for one, we work and live in different cities. Second, most of their gimiks last til the wee hours of the morning that it would be too dangerous for me. The third reason, I still have to think of or maybe create.
As expected, I eventually realized that this shopping madness can't go on forever so the best solution I came up with was to ensure that I have something to do in all the days of the week. It was probably the right time that my personal trainor at the gym would ask me to enroll for a 10-session workout. He started with criticizing me and note how little I have improved since I started going to the gym again. Despite the mean, tough and abrasive comments he told me, he somehow convinced me that it was the perfect time for me to work with him. Strictly speaking, I've lost 8lbs since I became single again. Officemates and friends both have noticed that I have grown thinner in the last few months. I may have reached a plateau and the perfect solution was to just get into a more extensive workout. So with that, I have successfully filled up my Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays nights and Saturday mornings.
At the same time, Erick, my former colleague, invited me to attend Singles for Christ. It's actually the second time he asked me to attend, the first one I did not complete because I got turned off with the pretentious crowd. Well now, since I have absolutely nothing to do and I wanna go out but I don't want to spend (they serve free dinner), I thought this was the perfect solution for my lonely Friday nights. I signed up and today would be the second out of 13 meetings. It's effectively one season - I am covered until June! Besides, I thought it was a sign that one night, when I was feeling so depressed (which I'll probably blog about soon) I received a message from Erick. And in his message, he was inviting me to attend. God couldn't have been more direct and explicit in getting my attention.
So anyway, all that's left are my Wednesdays and Sundays. It seems logical that I should just fit in my gimiks into Wednesdays because Sunday would be my chores/rest day. Now, I can be like Lil Boy and tell people that, "Sorry, I have prior commitment." Hahaha...
Doesn't read like a bad plan, filling your time constructively! I know all
to well the restless days & mindless ways. And you get dinner and
conversation on Friday nights, with people within your age range, right? I
have a couple of single friends who aren't using their time well. Mostly
sitting 'round and complaining, instead of taking incentive as you have
done. As for the gym, I have to admit that I've not taken care of myself in
the past year, gained over 20lbs, in the gut, of course, and as the weather
warms here and the days grow longer, I'm still complaining about taking
Dino for an extra couple of blocks when I walk him. And my mountain bike is
still sitiing there, even though I promised a friend that this would be the
year I'd get back into riding. No excuses, but wait, I know what you mean
about depression, I've been using that as an excuse the last few months,
and though it's a comfortable setting, both you & I know that it doesn't
solve or help anything. Here's hoping that you find "me" time on
Wednesdays, and enjoy the rest of the week!
hi kevin :) thanks for the encouragement. i would agree on you on the
depression part. Sometimes, we need an excuse for our lack of action, even
if we know that we can do something else. We just collectively call it as a
'result of depression'. In essence though, everything that happens in our
lives is a result of the decisions we have made. We are where we are
because we chose it. It may have not happened directly as a result of our
decision, but sometimes, it is the result of our decision to not decide at
all.
I know you are a resillient man, and you will pull thru this. My
trainor would always say, "Just focus on the bright light." And you know
what, it works all the time.
Ps. It's a cute thought that Dino should be helping you on your workout. Go
out and play in the field/park with him. It would be incredibly fun. Good
luck my friend.
hi kevin :) thanks for the encouragement. i would agree on you on the
depression part. Sometimes, we need an excuse for our lack of action, even
if we know that we can do something else. We just collectively call it as a
'result of depression'. In essence though, everything that happens in our
lives is a result of the decisions we have made. We are where we are
because we chose it. It may have not happened directly as a result of our
decision, but sometimes, it is the result of our decision to not decide at
all.
I know you are a resillient man, and you will pull thru this. My
trainor would always say, "Just focus on the bright light." And you know
what, it works all the time.
Ps. It's a cute thought that Dino should be helping you on your workout. Go
out and play in the field/park with him. It would be incredibly fun. Good
luck my friend.